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Tips for Tear Free Goodbyes

Tips for Tear Free Goodbyes

Make goodbyes short and sweet, but do not sneak out of the room.


Don't Linger. The longer you stay, the harder it is. Let your child know that you'll be there to pick him/her up, and say "See you later!" once he/she's gotten involved in an activity. If there are tears, they usually end within a minute or two of your leaving.


Create your own ritual. An example would be to give your child a kiss, then hi-five, and then hug. When the hug is over he/she knows it's time to go.


Consider a reward system. A reward system can be as simple as putting a smiley face on a calendar every time he/she leaves for school without a fuss. On Friday, if he/she has five smiley faces, he/she can earn a special treat. Treats do not need to be food on monetary. For many children spending some extra time with an adult, choosing what to eat for dinner, helping with dinner or going for walk can be a motivating reward. Be creative!


Help your child get to know the other kids in his/her class. Arrange a play date with a classmate. Having friends in school will make school seem more familiar and safe.


Read - The Kissing Hand by Audrey Penn is a good book on separation anxiety. The library can also provide you with many other relevant titles.


Stay positive - Children pick up on your non-verbal cues.


Share your school experiences.


Stay involved. Ask what they did in class that day. Find some time to volunteer in their classroom. Schedule a time to talk to the teacher if you have questions or concerns.


Establish and keep routines. Predictability is important to children and helps them feel in control. Set routines for before school, study time and bedtime.


Monitor homework. Offer to help, but do not complete homework for them.


Support the school and teacher. Modeling a positive connection between school and community is important.


Show your students you are proud of them. It is important to let children know that they do not have to be the best, but try their best.